Dear Son
'I hope that you have an understanding of my illness, now that you are older. I know I get tired and forget things. I hope that you can see that it’s not me, it’s the Multiple Sclerosis'
'I hope that you have an understanding of my illness, now that you are older. I know I get tired and forget things. I hope that you can see that it’s not me, it’s the Multiple Sclerosis'
The innocence and compassion of childhood are qualities that I often wish we carried through to adulthood. If they had, I believe they would make us more empathetic and understanding human beings.
Emma Valentine shares what self care living with Multiple Sclerosis means to her, what settles her mind, calms her and that feeling of preparedness.
There is a fear of disability ingrained in many of us from a young age. Being disabled or sick is seen as abnormal. Those of us with Multiple Sclerosis (MS) often deny ourselves the joy of participating for fear of being stigmatised. Disability has typically been something to hide as it makes others uncomfortable. Since some MS symptoms are invisible many people choose to conceal their disease as they worry about being treated differently or being isolated. This is further perpetuated by ‘masking’- passing as ‘non-disabled’. Invisible MS is more ‘palatable’ to the ableist world we navigate, which is perhaps why stigma is still so rife.
Last week (Part I) Rosie Farrell wrote about changing how we view and talk about disability to bring change & acceptance as part of someone’s life experience. This acceptance is part of creating personal, societal and systemic change so accessibility & equality become basic standards in Irish society. Read on for Part II: Why are you still blocking our way to equality
My disability is not a tragedy and I am not a burden. I am not to be pitied and most of all I am not an inspiration just because I live with MS.
My MS and disability is just one part of who I am. It is part of my identity, just like gender, sexuality, race or religion may be part of yours. Yet society rarely sees it that way. And for a very long time I did not see it that way either.
I have been diagnosed with Relapsing Remitting Multiple Sclerosis for 10 years now. That’s one MRI per year- plus the clinical trial related ones. Let’s say that I have been in a giant, buzzing magnet over 20 times.
On the eve of World MS Day, let’s talk about the importance of staying connected and mending those broken connections
The importance of connections cannot be overstated, and many people take them for granted. It is often confused with Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) Syndrome. Joni Mitchell sums it up beautifully in her song “Big Yellow Taxi” –
“Don't it always seem to go
That you don't know what you've got
Till it's gone…”
I will always remember the day my MS was diagnosed. Summer of 2010. It was a hot one.
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